Modern Dating

Nowadays dating has become a big part of modern culture. A way to meet new people, discover new possibilities, a form of socialising, exchanging ideas and life experiences and for some potentially meeting the one.

Technology has made it very easy for us to go on dozens of dates but have we become lazy, less romantically creative and afraid to make a move in real life to ask out someone we like? Why do we look for a more convenient option of a mobile app instead of seeing who and what may be right in front of us? Has dating become more superficial trying to impress and show off to the other party?

As much as dating can be fun and exciting, it can also be blinding, confusing and some may even say time wasting.

I used to love getting ready and looked forward to the date with butterflies in my stomach, possibility of falling in love or just having a good conversation with someone interesting. You really are spoilt for choice these days, especially living in a big city and can go on dates with a few different people each week, but what is the point? Do people even know what they want? Do they have guts to tell the truth about what they are looking for in order to avoid misunderstanding and wasting each other’s energy and time?

Even though the above sounds like modern dating, with Covid-19 pandemic we are now in, dating has definitely changed again. The question is has it changed for the better or worst? Some people may say “it’s impossible to date now, how am I meant to find love?!” The truth is, with all the difficulties people have had to go though, most have had realisations of what truly matters in life, how precious the time we have is, the importance of our family and creating a family of your own. We are now more connected in thoughts and our true inner self, so the potential of a deeper connection with someone is a lot greater than in what could be perceived as, somewhat, superficial dating.

We continue to have the same dating tools such as apps but now may need to use them in a different way (phone and video calls). It almost is like going back to previous generations when people have built relationships based on getting to know each other first, developing desire and passion through anticipation, whilst establishing an emotional connection as well as physical attraction.

It seems that people might have opened up their minds and hearts to love and have become braver in making decisions and moving forward in their relationships. It is mind blowing how many marriage proposals and pregnancies we are seeing during the last year or so! Finding it inspiring and heart warming seeing many people have found a silver lining in this big terrifying cloud during pandemic.

If you are single please do look at the positives, rest, pamper yourself and see this as an opportunity to connect to people and most importantly yourself. Understand what truly matters and the qualities you are looking for in “your modern dating” journey.