In anticipation of Valentine’s Day in a few weeks’ time, let’s talk about dualities, polar opposite energies, masculine and feminine and how it can influence our relationships.
Whether you are male or female, transgender, gay or straight, we all have both masculine and feminine energies. However, it is not necessarily 50/50 and understanding what energy you tend to have more of, how to use it and when, can improve a quality of your life.
Firstly, I would like to talk about the ladies. In the modern world and equal rights in our society, you may feel a lot of pressure for you to have a career at the same time as having children, to look good and on top of that to be healthy and happy. It is becoming more difficult for many to be in tune with their natural femininity, embracing creativity and fluidity. There are many ladies whose dominating energy has become so masculine (perhaps they are naturally more masculine) destroying relationships or may be not even being able to be in one. They want to be right all the time, can’t let go and want to be in control, and this may work with a man with strong feminine traits, but not with a man’s man. Therefore, ladies, it is important to find a balance, take a breather and try to be aware of the actions, attitude, tone in our voice and work on the true nature’s feminine you have been given. Try to see a hero in your man (if in a straight relationship) and notice how things can change. And more than anything your man wants to see you happy!
Gentlemen, most of you live as nature has intended, problem solving and hunting to “bring home the bacon”. It can be very stressful for you in the world of too many hunters trying to be the best of the best and providing for the family. Quite often men forget that their women can feel unseen or ignored with a lack of compliments and attention, not understood or supported which can lead to her seeking attention elsewhere and risking separation or divorce. Even though a raw masculine energy is attractive to a woman, it is important to be in touch with your feminine energy too. By doing so your relationship can be taken to another level. Listen to what a woman has to say, understand where she is coming from rather than just solving a problem that may not be there, and immerse yourself in her emotions. Once again, it is crucial to find a balance as no one wants a guy that’s too feminine and being a pleaser is neither attractive nor what a woman wants. And don’t forget, they always want to feel like they are the most important thing in your world.
As much as we don’t want to, many couples do go through rough times and separate as a result and it may be the right decision for them, especially if they end up having different goals and values in life. This should not mean that should be the default option for all couples.
To sum up, I encourage you to work on your energies and keep on igniting your spark. Relationships hardly ever end because of the lack of love but because of the lack of polarity and attraction. It is the one difference between any other relationship (with family, friends, colleagues) and an intimate relationship.
Wishing you a balanced yin and yang in your relationships this Valentine’s!
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