Have you ever thought about who your soulmate is? Is there more than one? Or perhaps you don’t believe in one? How do we define a soulmate? Today, I would like to talk about soulmates and what I would call “love on another level”.
Whether you have a soulmate in your life or dream about meeting one, you should be proud of yourself for even thinking further than an average person and striving for a deeper connection with another human being.
From my perspective I totally relate to the topic of looking for a soulmate. Since my teenage years I used to spend a lot of time thinking about it and for many years ahead searching for one and that deep meaningful connection.
Some people may think there is only one soulmate out there and that they are very hard to find, and may even settle for just an “okay” relationship. The truth is that as our personality evolves, our horizons expand and we open ourselves up to different possibilities, we may meet more than one soulmate throughout our life. It’s always good to check in with yourself from time to time to revaluate where you are at and whether your values have changed with time to see if you are on the right track with your partner. Or if single, you are clear on what you are looking for at the time.
People may define a soulmate differently and it can mean different things to different people but what are the main characteristics to look for when identifying if he or she is your soulmate?
First and foremost it is having very similar life values. For example, if one person values honesty and loyalty and the other is prone to some lies it may not necessarily be your soulmate.
Secondly is to have similar goals at the time. If for you it is money and career and the other person’s goal is to have a family and spend quality time together, it may be hard for this relationship to be happy and fulfilling long term. Or say, if one strives for security and saving for a rainy day and the other person is driven by risk and adventure, there might be a conflict in that relationship.
Thirdly, it is understanding each other and their needs. Sometimes you can just look at a person and understand each other without saying a word, you almost feel each other. Understanding the needs of each other may make a huge difference in your relationship, how and when to support, to praise, to make your person feel special.
There are many other signs in identifying your soulmate but today I would like to add just another quite simple but an important one. It is actually having similar tastes be it, food, clothes, holiday, places of interest or activities. It does not always have to be identical but it may be hard to imagine someone whose music taste is in heavy metal being a soulmate to someone who likes cheesy pop tunes.
Even though the main focus of this article is on romantic relationships, it is important to add that our soulmates can be found in our friends and family too. Have a great day and I am wishing you the deepest connection you can have with another human being and love on another level!
Next week I will explore what having a soulmate means and what that connection can give you in return.
HEAD & HEART MATTERS 