One of my favourite topics of all times is love and relationships. Seems like an easy and straight forward part of our being and one of the basic human needs, however, a lot of people find it incredibly complex.
Relationships with family, friends and colleagues, even strangers are crucial and affect how we feel, our mentality, everyday choices and how well we do in life.
I would like to start by looking briefly at intimate relationships. I see intimate as a key word in that sentence. There are 4 types of intimacy… emotional, physical, mental and spiritual. Physical is the only one that separates your love relationships from relationships with friends and family. Therefore, in my opinion, it is so important to develop, work on and never let that fire fade.
I see many couples whose intimacy changes as years go by. It can be quite easy to get into some kind of a comfort zone, to live in a daily routine and to forget the person they have fallen in love with, and how playful it may have been at the beginning.
Even though a lot of people would say it is a part of human nature for the spark and love to change with time, I also see couples in love, full of energy for each other, who has that spark in their eyes and live happily ever after.
How can we get to that higher level of love and physical, emotional, spiritual intimacy? I think a lot of it is down to communication, honesty, letting your other half know of your desires, wants and needs, fears and frustrations.
Another even more important factor is vulnerability. People have built walls (and understandably so – you have to survive in the modern world where money can be a problem solving mechanism) projecting strong, powerful personalities. It can be hard to see what is underneath fancy facades, and vulnerability is a rare find these days. That in turn minimises an opportunity to see one’s soul and what is deep inside making it harder to feel close and intimate with on many levels.
I could make a list of things to spice up an intimate life with, and we all know it too, but I find it interesting to dig deeper and investigate further than just going on surprise dates and fantasies in the bedroom (although, that doesn’t hurt either ;))!
On that note I shall leave you and check in on how my fiancĂ©’s day is going. Think about your relationships. What does intimacy mean to you? What are your views? Can love be undying? Are you happy? What can be done to improve? If you are not in a relationship but want to be in one think about why that is. Until the next post..
Be happy and live with passion!
HEAD & HEART MATTERS 