Have you ever felt that person you are attracted to or went on a date with is too good for you? Are manners and human behaviours important when you start dating? You bet!
As my readers may have noticed I don’t beat around the bush and go straight to the point as I believe in clear, concise communication and can do it well without wasting everyone’s precious time.
So, let’s get to it!
Easy to say “Don’t judge the book by its cover”, however our brains are wired to be judgmental. As much as we may not like to be judged or wouldn’t want to judge others, it does automatically happen. Be it looks, more successful career, personality, confidence or coming from a wealthier background, they are all taken into account by our brain and our perceptions when we like someone or going on a date with.
If you have been in this situation before (ie not feeling good enough), you may need to check on your self worth. A person who knows themselves, what they stand for, what they can give and what they are capable of, their value system, would NOT feel “small” next to somebody who, say, has a lot more money in the bank or looks in a way that you perceive more attractive.
Ultimately our behaviours, feelings and thoughts are tied into how we value ourselves as human beings. In my recent video in my “Get Back Into Dating” group, https://www.facebook.com/groups/getbackintodating, I have talked about how we often behave very differently and can’t quite be ourselves when we feel the person is somewhat “better” than us. If you can relate to this, you know what to work on.
So, how can we work on self-worth?
First of all, it is not something that can change overnight if you have been conditioning yourself for many years. It is a process of changing some of your beliefs, habits, practice self-acceptance, understanding yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and say “I love you”, mean what you say, notice how you feel when you say it to yourself. Do you accept it? Do you feel resistance to it? How does it feel to say those words to yourself?
If you think you can’t do the work yourself, ask for help. You may need to take it outside of you as we often keep things in our head, do a lot of thinking which is not enough to make significant changes in your life.
In conclusion I would like to tell you a little secret… 🙂
If you have gone on a date with someone you deem “better” it means you are Good Enough, otherwise they wouldn’t have gone on one with you!
On that note I will love you and leave you to practice an affirmation – “I accept and love myself for who I am”. Practice every day.
HEAD & HEART MATTERS 