This post is both about 1 becoming 2 – growing another life inside you and the changes you might be going through. And also if you are a family – when 2 becomes 3.
To be honest I have always found it a little strange when you know a couple well, you know what they are about, their likes and dislikes, their energy and then there is news about an addition and suddenly there is another person appears and they are no longer quite the same couple and you think where this little person came from?!! :))
As a first-time expectant parent I am sure you are, like me, having millions of questions going through your head.
Will I ever have freedom again? Am I ready? How will my relationship change? Can I ever be me again? Will I be a good parent? Will I be able to loose the baby weight? Will the baby be healthy? Would I be financially comfortable? The list is long and they are viable questions, however, as you might have heard before with high risks come high rewards too!
I have spoken to people who have gone through terrible childbirth experiences and you would have thought after that, they would not have another child, but people do and they say it was worth it!
That is what I am focusing on and I suggest you do too, otherwise you would just stress yourself out and have unnecessary anxieties. Try to focus on what you can control now and follow experts advice on how to make this time the most enjoyable.
If you are becoming a parent for the first time, another thing you can do is to gain as much knowledge as possible. Understanding of birth, labour, how to care for the new born can give you more confidence and you might feel more in control with what is and will be happening to your body. Don’t forget to book those Antenatal Classes!
With a new addition to the family you may, too, become different and partly have to reintroduce yourself too, as a new addition to your own family, and that can be a worry to some people. Hang on in there you will be just great!
We are quite lucky to now have access to so much information and new approaches to birthing experiences compared to our parents. When I spoke to my mum she said back then no classes existed and she didn’t even know how to push. Luckily, all went well in the end and I am here! If previous generations could, we can too! If you are looking for support I am here to help and always happy to listen, discuss and if I may, coach.
In the next part 2 I will be talking more about intimate relationships and introducing a new person into your life when you are so used to being on your own, with your own quirks and habits you might be reluctant to a change, even though you might really be craving to have a partner.
HEAD & HEART MATTERS 