As much as we like going with a flow, seeing what happens and live in suspense of what our other halves are capable of doing for us, we like to learn about them as time goes by. However, there comes a time in our life when we can no longer test the waters and wait around. A lot of people would say you have to take time to get to know someone properly, but can you really fully know someone?!
I’ve always known what I wanted my relationships to be like, and what I valued most. Previously, I would wait and see, and if things are not quite what I wanted for myself I would get disappointed and pick a fight. That was not helpful for either party. And when I suggest things they could have done, they would do it soon after but then it is too late and loses its meaning.
Just looking back at last week, when my fiancé took me on a surprise night out, reminded me of how I used to visualise and wanted to be taken out on surprise date nights in the past.
My experience has taught me to communicate at the very start of the relationship what I stand for, my goals, my values and as I didn’t want to waste any more of my time I now see how important it was to do so. Perhaps, if I haven’t done it at the start of my current relationship and haven’t laid my cards on the table who knows where it would have been now, and whether or not we would be planning our wedding. And don’t worry about scaring them away, the right person would have similar values to yourself and if they run away, then you have saved yourself time and energy, be confident and say to yourself and others – “NEXT!”
Do you think it’s important to communicate your goals and values or would you rather not? Does communication come easy to you?
As simple and as common as it may sound, working on our communication skills, and the ability to do it in the right way with our other halves, is key for changing what could be a difficult relationship into one that brings success and happiness to both you and your partner.
HEAD & HEART MATTERS 